Love Yourselves

Toos Foundation reviews Persian dance history in London, March 2008, BBC Persian.
And so, it's Friday. I am trying to take it easy, really trying. This was another eventful and exhausting week. I decided not to go to a musical event in Oakland tonight, and instead go visit my friend, Rojan, at her house for a couple of hours. She is a talented singer and a very kind and loving woman. I will take it easy with a small circle of friends and some great Kurdish music, instead. Before I leave, though, I thought I would put up my Friday post.
My younger son is getting a hang of this driving business and the independence it offers him. An hour ago, he went to look at the by now empty refrigerator, and announced that if I gave him a shopping list, he would go grocery shopping! I gave him the list, some money, and the car keys quickly without blinking an eye! Hee Hee, that was a sweet gesture, a first, and it made me so happy!
My photo essay on the Simin Behbahani event was published today. You can see it here if you live outside Iran. Unfortunately, Iranian.com is filtered in Iran. I am working on a story that is making me smile as I write it! It is the story of a friend of mine in which I write about his learning about love and respect from his teenage daughter. The story is a good one, a very funny one, and I hope to be able to pull it off and tell a good tale. Soon.
So, O.K. I thought long and hard about what I would write in the last paragraph of my Friday post today. I usually talk about love and affection for those we love. The funny thing is that I actually mean all that advice I write about! These days, as I hurt a little bit and get hit with bouts of sadness at other people's selfishness, carelessness and wreckless behavior, it is a bit hard for me to write things I don't feel one hundred percent. So, instead, I urge you to do as I am about to do this weekend. Spend some time with yourselves! Lick any wounds you may have, and prop yourselves up! Love yourselves and reflect on all the wonderful things you do have, not on what you are missing. Disregard your worries and pains, throwing them into an imaginary big river passing right through your mind, one by one. Clean your hearts of feelings of helplessness and weakness. Remember that though we are no bigger than a small particle in relation to the magnificient universe in which we live, when we think our world has come to an end, in fact it hasn't! Build yourselves up to feel good and strong, in charge of your environment, your decisions, and your life. That's what I'm going to be doing this weekend. Well, O.K., truth be told, I will work on loving myself a little bit, while at the same time still loving everybody else around me, I know of no other way! I will just be doing a lot of reflection, that's all. Have a good weekend you all. Here's a little eid-e-shoma mobarak song from the legendary Haydeh for you.


Anonymous said...

سلام نازی عزیز نازنینم

باید بخونم پستهای خوبت رو
امیدوارم که خوب خوب باشی و نوروز خیلی خوبی هم در پیش رو داشته باشی.
بوس بای
مرضیه .

مسعود said...

سلام نازی خانم
هیچ چیز را نباید به رودخانه ریخت،حتی اگر مجازی و تصوری باشد.آنهم این قسم آلاینده ها را.بهتر است به آنها دیگر فرصت و مجال بروز ندهیم.چگونه؟
به جهان خرم از آنم که جهان خرم ازوست
عاشقم بر همه عالم که همه عالم ازوست
همه را باید دوست داشت و البته خود را نیز.قدر هر چیزی را که داریم بدانیم،وقتی اینطور شد ،خودش زیاد می شود.حسرت چیزی را نخوریم،بلکه امیدوار باشیم که روزی بدست می آید.تو هم امیدوار دست دادن آن فرصت باش

Marzieh said...

چقدر بانمک بود کار ته تغاری؟! ای جان رفته خرید....

امیدوارم که تا حالا از همه غم ها به خوبی عبور کرده باشی.همیشه شادی مهمان قلبت باد نازی مهربان

راستی فیلم سنتوری را قراره ببینم. تا حد زیادی باهات موافقم.خیلی از غم و غصه و ناهنجاری گفته شده. بسه دیگه
یادمه بچه که بودم حدود 10 سال و اینها طرفدار فیلم های ترسناک بودم و بعد همه جورفیلمی را می دیدم ولی حالا اصلا حال و حوصله ناراحتی و عصبی شدن رو ندارم.زندگی خودمون فیلمه!!


! said...

سلام نازی جونم
خوبی ؟؟؟
نوروز بر شما هم خوش
راستی من با نظر مسعود عزیز خیلی موافق نیستم ، به نظر من باید خیلی چیزهایی رو که به ناچار بروز پیدا میکنند در رودخانه ریخت !!!
البته باید مواظب آلودگی محیط زیست هم بود LOL
BE good azizam ...

Daisy said...

I love you Nazy. I couldn't find any other words to describe what I felt by reading this post. I was truly touched. THANK you.

Nazy said...

Salam Marzieh Jan:

I miss you girl! I hope you are well and that you haven't over-exerted yourself in your khooneh takooni!

I want to tell you about a great book you should get yourself and your sweet daughter for Nowrooz! I just saw this book and wrote a short review about it, too, which will be published on Monday. It would be perfect for you two for years to come, you'll see! The books's name is "Happy Nowruz; Cooking with Children to Celebrate the Persian New Year" by Najmieh Batmanglij, Mage Publishers.

It's a superbly happy and practical cookbook. Truth be told, I loved the recipes it has for toot, noon berenji, noon nokhodchi, and other Iranian pastries. Those recipes would do nicely for someone my age, too! You can read about it online here: http://www.mage.com

Have a great Sunday my friend.

Nazy said...

Salam Masoud Jan:

How are you? Chashm, I will heed your advice!

Thanks so much for those hopeful words at the end of your comment. I use them as my "falgoosh" and good omen for the year to come! Very uplifting and encouraging. Thank you.

Nazy said...

Farshad, Farshad,

How are you? Did you have a good trip?

Sorry for being a pest, Uni-Far Jan, but if you are going to send me pictures of Tehran preparing for Nowrooz, there isn't that much time left before Nowrooz! If they are too much work, just forget them this year and we will try again next year.

Be good and happy Universal Jan. Your absence is always felt my friend.

Nazy said...

Daisy Jan:


This was a hard post for me to write. It took me many tries and a loooong time to write it, because I hate "faking it" and I refrain from "bearing it all!" It is particularly rewarding for me to see that you read it and you felt it and you reacted in the way that you did, not because you say you love me, but because sometimes we just need to let a person who is hurting know that we have heard her, that's all.

You are a very special young woman Daisy. Have a good Sunday my friend.

Assal said...

How cute! I love the image of the Traveler asking you for a shopping list!!!

Nazy said...

My Sweet Assal:

Come for Eid Didani soon, and tease him about the eggs! Eidet Mobarak azizam. I love you more each year, if loving you more is even possible!