5/16/2008

Reset

Shaghayegh Kamali performs Korashah (The Prince), a sweet Bakhtiari ballad, composed by Siavash Beizaee in Germany, March 2008.

It's Friday. I finish another week of intense activity and emotions. Reacting to some undesirable news and stimuli, I experienced stress, worry, anger, and fear, emotions I don't normally feel these days...well maybe the stress, but not the rest. It is always challenging to be a single mother, but sometimes those challenges become a little bigger and more difficult to handle. On the upside, I also experienced some unusual positive emotions. I spent time with my young friend, Maryam, who is expecting her second child any day now, and it was exciting to be in the company of the hope that surrounds an expectant mother. Now, by Friday evening, everything has settled down and I'm back on track of life as I like it and understand it. Relief.

Did I tell you Iden left us a couple of weeks ago? I miss the young man. Tonight my sons and Paul are watching basketball and eating the dinner I just made for them. As I let the stress of last week roll down my shoulders into my fingertips and from there trickling onto the floor and out of me, I hear them cheering and laughing. That's a really good sound. I will not worry about how quiet this same house will be in a couple of months when my older son, too, will go to live in another university town. I am done with my worrisome thoughts of this week.
I am going to embrace my loved ones this weekend. I'm going to pull up a chair next to my family and just sit there looking at them and listening to them. The cell phone is about to be turned off and the home phone unplugged--the computer, maybe! You should try it, too! Go sit and watch people who matter to you talk and interact and eat and move about. Listen and see what new things you hear. Be kind to yourselves and to others and if you feel compelled to do something, let it be to hug and kiss and coo. Enjoy your weekend and be good y'all.

13 comments:

! said...

سلام نازی جونم
من باز یه روز رفتم طالقان اومدم دیدم اینجا کلی عقبم و باز دو تا پست گذاشتی :)
اِ آخی آیدین
کجا رفت !
منم دلم براش تنگ شد !!!!!

مسعود said...

سلام نازی خانم
دو بند مینویسم بجای دو پست
1-یاداز مسابقه کردی،بدان که امروز تهران و ایران در تب و تاب فینال لیگ برتر فوتبال میان پرسپولیس و سپاهان است.راستی تو قرمزی یا آبی؟اگر نمی خوای جواب بدی !نده.فقط نگو من طرفدار تیم ملی ام
2-خدا جزای خیر بدهد ترا.بازهم آبشار کلماتت عاشقانه و پر امید و گرم و وحدت آفرین و پیوند دهنده از آسمان مجاز بر واقعیت زندگی ،باریدن گرفته.تصور میکنم ترا ،در هیئت یک روانشناس که در یک برنامه عمومی مثلا در تلویزیون همین حرفها را میزند.چه میشود(این را به سبک فردوسی پور بخوان که میگوید:چه میکنه این....)

Anonymous said...

سلام نازی عزیز

گاهی دور بودن از همه ابزارهای تکنولوژیک و برداختن به امور مهمی که گاهی کمتر بهش توجه داریم مثل یه گپ و گفتگوی عمیق خانوادگی و یا حتی گذراندن مدتی رو در طبیعت بکر، حسابی روح و روان ادم را نوازش می دهد.

بعضی وقتها فکر میکنم چرا اینقدر کم برای امور بسیار بسیار مهم وقت هست!


با بهترین آرزوها
سوشیانس

Anonymous said...

سلام نازی عزیز

گاهی دور بودن از همه ابزارهای تکنولوژیک و برداختن به امور مهمی که گاهی کمتر بهش توجه داریم مثل یه گپ و گفتگوی عمیق خانوادگی و یا حتی گذراندن مدتی رو در طبیعت بکر، حسابی روح و روان ادم را نوازش می دهد.

بعضی وقتها فکر میکنم چرا اینقدر کم برای امور بسیار بسیار مهم وقت هست!


با بهترین آرزوها
سوشیانس

Mojgan said...

Salam Nazy joon
Hope you have a fantastic weekend with your loved ones and chashm I won't call you this weekend ;-)
Thankjs for the wonderful replies you had left for me. Of course I come here, I just never thought to leave a comment. I've been visiting your virtual home even before I had the pleasure of meeting you in person. I hope to see you again soon. Have your peaceful weekend darling xoxoxo
beautiful video too.

! said...

راستی نازی جونم
می دونستی من وقتی میرم طالقان تقریبا همین شرایط بند آخر رو دارم ، می دونی موبایل که آنتن نمیده ، تلفن منزل هم موجود نیست !!!
کامپیوتر و اینترنت هم همینطور و مهمتر از همه تلویزیون و رادیو هم حتی نیست
فقط شمایید و طبیعت
راستی نازی جونم برات ایمیل زدم و کلی عکس فرستادم ببینیشون حتما ...
شاد باشی

آدم گلابی said...

Nazi joon,
i can imagine how difficult it can be at times to be a single mom, it takes a lot of courage, wisdom and sense of love and responsibility. and yes! you are the best mama ever, one can feel the warmth and love u have for your children and for life in every single word of ur writings and more importantly you are wise, i think i have told u before that you are an old soul. well! worries, stress, sadness, anger... are all human feelings, they come n go and it's upon us to respect them n observe them n be aware that they are visitors, they are not US.
u have a great weekend Nazi e aziz filled with love n joy n peace

Nazy said...

Salam Farshad Jan;

Residan be kheir! Iden left to pursue his "personal legend." (do you remember The Alchemist, Kimiagar's, افسانهء شخصی)? It is of a "personal" nature, so I can't say more about it. I do miss him. I told him he can come back anytime he wants.

Have a good Monday, Uni-Far Jan!

Nazy said...

Salam Masoud Jan:

Yes, I know about the game! I was following it, too. So Persepolis won in the last few minutes. I watched the celebration on YouTube.

I love Ferdowsipoor! I prefer him to the other guy whose name I have forgotten now, the one who talks nonesense and cheshm basteh gheib migeh!

I don't actually have a favorite among the national league teams. I root for the best team on that front, but the National Football Team is my favorite. The best times for me are when there is a game on and I get to sit with my family and friends to watch. I put on my Iran T-Shirt and take my Iranian flag with me, along with a lot of food (!) wherever my family gathers. I hope Daei does something with that team. I'm tired of watching them lose to 2nd and 3rd rate teams.

Thank you for visiting and for your kind words Masoud Jan. Is it already really hot in Ahvaz? We have been having a heat wave all this past week and some days it has been miserable. Take care.

Nazy said...

Salam bar Soshiyans-e Aziz:

Heeh! I didn't succeed in staying entirely away from technology! I did try, though! I also spent some really interesting time with my kids and my niece this weekend, talking. As is always the case, I learned a couple of new things from them!

I hope you have started a good week doostam.

Nazy said...

Salam Mojgan Jan:

It was so nice chatting with you! I hope you had a peaceful weekend. Mine was very peaceful and I'm grateful for that. I had to recharge my batteries!

I know I have many visitors who never say anything. Though I love the dialogue that happens inside the comments section, it is perfectly o.k. with me if people want to leave quietly, too. I am just grateful that they come.

Here's wishing you a great new week.

Nazy said...

Golabi Jan:

Forgive me, but I can never forget that you are a psychotherapist! I read your comments with special care and attention, therefore. I didn't know about "respecting" one's negative feelings--that sounds so right!

I was angry with something and I had a hard time convincing myself to write about it in a letter to a colleague. I wrote the darn letter 150 times and deleted all the lines that were expressing my anger. I just didn't want to sound angry (some men think that is emotional, and displaying intense emotion in the workplace is not considered professional, as you know).

I wrote and erased those lines, each time writing another sentence which would express my anger. I finally sat down and took a deep breath, telling myself that I could send that note without any reference to my anger and resentment at some appalling behavior, but I won't be able to erase my anger. I told myself that my anger does exist and it has a very good reason for its existence. I can't just pretend like everything is rosey.

So the last time I wrote the note, before I had a chance to change my mind, I pushed "send." His reply shocked me! He said he was so glad I had written about something which he knew was going on, and that he was welcoming my honesty for expressing it, offering some solutions for resolving the problem. simple as that! I continue to learn things about myself and about life!

Have a lovely day sweet Golabi!

Nazy said...

Farshad Jan:

I have the photos. They are great! Thank you. Jaye man khali boodeh ha!